Heart and Possibility

Michael Hyatt, one of my favorite bloggers, recently posted The Importance of a Leader’s Heart. I was convicted. Let me share what he said, then I’ll share why I was convicted.

The most important thing you can do as a leader is to keep your heart open. What do I mean? Think of it this way. When your heart is closed:

  • You are distant and aloof.
  • You don’t connect to people.
  • Communication shuts down.
  • You leave people to fend for themselves.
  • You focus on what people are doing wrong.
  • You are critical and demanding.
  • People feel oppressed.

The result? Possibility dries up and the organization begins to die.

Conversely, when your heart is open:

  • You are fully present and accessible.
  • You connect to people.
  • Communication is wide open.
  • You are a resource to your people.
  • You may focus on what is missing, but not on who is wrong.
  • You are affirming and encouraging.
  • People feel free.

Isn’t that good?! He presents it for leaders, I believe it’s for everyone.

So why was I convicted? Because in certain scenarios, I am in the first group. I have this thing I’ve been working on for years. I wish I would just change, but that hasn’t happened yet.

It is fairly easy for me to keep my heart open when I am one-on-one or in a small group of people (2-4 people). Or, if I am a designated leader of the group. If I am not the designated leader and in a group of more than 4 people, I really have to work to keep my heart open. I don’t know if I necessarily become critical and demanding, but I do withdraw. Anything larger than a group of 4 drains me.

As I mentioned, the one exception to that is if I am one of the leaders. Then I remain fully present and fully engaged. If I’m not one of the leaders, after 20-30 minutes, I begin to fade. It becomes too much effort.

So, what do I do? I don’t know. Maybe being in a group of more than 4 will always be that way. I know it drives my friends’ crazy.

What are your thoughts? How are you in group situations?

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