As an introvert, I sometimes struggle in large group situations. Put me in a small group or one-on-one, I’m fine. Put me with more than 4-5 people, I will struggle…unless….
Unless I am a designated leader of that group. Then, I’ll be fine.
As introverts, sometimes we think too much about our ‘ineptness’ in group situations. We shine in other areas. That’s why this article, by Janet Callaway was such a booster for me. Her suggested steps in How to Bring Out the Best in People resonates with me.
When I am in a leadership role, I”m not thinking about what others think of me. Instead, I’m thinking about how to connect with those in the group. It’s all about them, not me. By thinking about them, I naturally lead them. Maybe that’s what I need to focus on when I am in group situations and not in the leadership role.
Here are my versions of the points Callaway mentions in her article.
Expect the best from people.
Leading others means taking them beyond where they are now. People will usually rise to what’s expected of them.
Study the other person’s needs.
Ask questions. Find out about them. Where do you live? What do you like to do? What’s your favorite movie? etc. It gives them value.
Recognize and applaud achievement.
Be specific. Instead of saying ‘You are doing great’, say ‘You are doing great because you don’t give up but are always thinking of other options in how to continue to move forward’.
Place a premium on collaboration.
Value others. Value their thoughts, their ideas, their opinion. Much of this is done just by listening.
Take steps to keep your own motivation high.
Enthusiasm attracts others. Take care of yourself so your energy and enthusiasm stays high.
Leading others isn’t about us. It’s about them.
What is your natural way of leading others? What helps you be you in group situations?
01/12/2011 at 6:55 pm Permalink
Carma, aloha. Thanks so much for including my post in yours and letting me know it resonated with you.
Carma, I appreciate your comment that if you are the leader of a group, you are not the introvert you tend to be.
Introvert or extrovert, we would all be better off and accomplish more if we put the focus on others rather than ourselves. There is a lot of truth to the saying that most of us need to get out of our own way.
Look forward to visiting again. Until next time, aloha. Janet
03/12/2011 at 4:27 am Permalink
Thanks for the visit and for the comment, Janet! I appreciate your writing!