Life Lessons from a 90-year old

When I run across something written by someone who has lived most of their life, I pay attention. I believe we can learn a lot about living life well from those that have gone before us. This week I am posting a list contained within an email I received from a friend. Here it is:

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.  My odometer rolled over to 90 [last] August, so here is the column once more:

  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
  9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
  10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
  16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
  23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
  26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  27. Always choose life.
  28. Forgive everyone everything.
  29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  33. Believe in miracles.
  34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
  35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
  37. Your children get only one childhood.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  42. The best is yet to come.
  43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves.”

Trackback URL

9 Comments on "Life Lessons from a 90-year old"

  1. pbbaughman
    12/06/2009 at 7:50 am Permalink

    WOW!

  2. John Waters
    12/06/2009 at 8:23 am Permalink

    I really needed this today. Thank you Carma.

  3. Cheryl
    12/06/2009 at 9:50 am Permalink

    How Godlike for this to come just when I am feeling so small and confused with life. I also really needed this today. Thanks for caring and sharing! Cheryl

  4. Brandon Frahm
    12/06/2009 at 1:22 pm Permalink

    What a Great set of things to learn from! God Bless You

  5. DeAnn Jones
    12/06/2009 at 7:55 pm Permalink

    How is it when the times get tuff and we are feeling all alone in this great big world… a great person comes along and shares something like this with us… Im struggling with alot this week and this really helped…. Thanks Carma

  6. Jimmy and Jean Kernodle
    12/06/2009 at 8:43 pm Permalink

    Thanks Carma,

    What a wonderful way to express our journey here, a true teacher of life.

  7. Evelyn Hall
    13/06/2009 at 6:00 am Permalink

    What a beautiful message this is to everyone, thanks for sharing it!
    Evelyn Hall

  8. Carma
    15/06/2009 at 7:58 am Permalink

    Wow. Thank you to each of you for your response and for taking the time to respond. How vast and different are each of our journeys, yet immensely the same and alike in our yearnings and longings for significance and wanting to do the right thing – to take the next step in the right direction. I think that is what this list did for me – provided a bit of light in the right direction..and simplified life at the same time. May each of you be incredible blessed!

  9. Bill Reed
    17/06/2009 at 9:32 am Permalink

    I don’t really have anything to say but thanks! (Anyone that knows me will find this a little unbelievable.

Hi Stranger, leave a comment:

ALLOWED XHTML TAGS:

<a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>

Subscribe to Comments